This honesty involves learning how to express openly to another person the fullness of your immediate inner experience, by setting aside all your characteristic psychological defenses. And to do that, you have to come to terms with the emotional pain that caused those defenses to come into being in the first place. Of course, that pain originated through parental and other social interactions in your childhood, but, just as you continue to encounter these same sorts of painful feelings through social interactions in your adult life, you will also encounter these feelings as a result of interactions between you and your psychotherapist. This is the essence of the therapeutic relationship. You confront your pain directly in psychotherapy, without running from it, so that you can heal it and transform it.